World’s greatest NYE resolutions (that may stick!)

How to cultivate the best habits for  having a truly awesome year

Many people make 1-2 New Year’s Resolutions and then consciously or unconsciously, they disappear within a few weeks or months.

Joining the gym, starting a new habit, running a budget and writing down all of the money you spend, going on a diet, flossing after meals… I have seen them, tried them and watched myself fail and watched others fail so many times.

By putting up a requirement to pursue a new goal for 365 days, you are almost guaranteeing that you will fail.

Forgive yourself and forget the New Year Resolutions. It is unlikely that you will be able to begin a new habit from a standing start and continue it for a whole year; that’s a lot like thinking that you could run a full marathon without first running a mile.

To make a new habit or a new set of habits, is like starting a cold car first thing in the morning. You may have to run the starter a few times to get it going from zzzzzzz to zoom: R R R R — rrrrrrrrrr RRRRR — RRRRRRR—RRRR- VROOM!

My suggestion is for you to make a RRR-revolution, not for the whole year, but simply for each new MONTH.


Try a thirty day commitment, instead of a 365 day sentence. There, doesn’t that sound easier?

January may be the ideal time to start getting up an hour earlier while the sun is up and walking before breakfast. Do this every day for a month and see how you feel. If you like it, continue with it; if you don’t like it after 30 days, then quit that habit with full pride after doing it for 30 days, and then move happily onto the next project.

February could be a good time to do a detox in your diet, while there is still plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables in season. Make juices or smoothies in a blender: mix and match different colours, fruits with veges, sweet with sour, whatever makes you feel good. Experiment with different combinations and have FUN while you cut down on breads, grains, processed foods, meat and dairy for 30 days. See how you feel after a month, and if you like it, continue, and if you don’t, then go back to your old ways.

March could be a good time to up the ante on the exercise, just because it is March: instead of walking, you can March forth with your head and arms high (marching forth is particularly useful on the day of March Fourth). Some call it power-walking or posing, but you can say “I am marching for March” every day for 30 days. Continue until the 30th and then see if you’d like to continue the new energising habit.

April can be a good time to get spiritual: it is the season of Easter, Passover, Pascha, Ishtar, Hathor, Kali, Bacchanalia and many other great religious festivals that celebrate new life, happiness, fertility, sex, fun and love. Join a class and learn to meditate: meditation and focussed thought in prayer are common to all major religions. A new spiritual awareness will create more peace of mind and happiness in you — this will affect others around you.

May could be a great time to do something that you wanted to try but were not sure if you May like it: consider a drawing class, enrolling in a free educational at your local library, a DIY course at your local hardware store or following up your roots on Just do it: it’s only thirty days.

June is a great month to think about Tax and where you spend your money. Carry a notepad for 30 days and record all of your incoming & outgoing expenses for the month. Consider the areas that you could possibly cut back on, or consider how you could claim a tax deduction for some of your work-related expenses. Jesus was possibly talking to a Roman tax collector when he said, “Ye have not (a tax deduction) because ye ask not (for a tax deduction). Ask and ye shall receive (a possible tax deduction).”

July is winter in the southern hemisphere and a good time to snuggle up with either a romantic book or a romantic partner. Make it your mission this month to spend more time at home and invest time with your loved ones (that’s YOU if you are single). Do what makes you happy and ask yourself the question for 30 days: Does this enrich my relationship (with myself or with another)? If it does, keep doing it, if not, try something that does!

August comes from a word that means “respected, impressive, majestic” and you will be in the august company of other great people if you start to see yourself as you truly are. For 30 days, work on your self-esteem. Other people seem to like you, others can see your talents and your potential, so why not you? Commit to discovering and enhancing your inner worth: cut off the scratchy bits and reveal the diamond inside of you. Read books, listen to CD’s and do whatever it takes to boost your confidence, enhance your self-esteem and realise who you can truly be; every day for this month.

September was traditionally the seventh month, and seven was sacred to God, because She rested on the seventh day. (Yes, God was female: how else do you explain all that multi-tasking?) A good time to rest, recuperate and recharge your batteries: you have been working on yourself for some months now and it’s time to take a well-deserved break. Read fiction books, take long baths, have a massage, schedule your playtime into your calendar FYRST and then plan your work around it. Take care of yourself this month and know that we will be back to working on yourself again soon.

October; traditionally the eighth month and according to Asian tradition, the symbol for wealth and abundance. Make a commitment to do whatever it takes to enhance your personal wealth, without much extra effort: you can learn how to buy stocks/shares/cryptocurrency  with as little as $500 (there’s a great book called “Who’s Taking Your Money? (and how to get some of it back!)”, available on Amazon, that shows you how to invest into common household brands and make uncommon profits). You can look at starting a small online business such as selling your creative hobby items on eBay. Once you make $500 from your creative hobby business, you can buy some stocks/shares/cryptocurrency. Once you make $20 000 from your shares, you can buy some property or a bigger business. Once you have that, you are making passive income. Rinse and repeat.

November, once the ninth month and symbol of perfection, now the eleventh month where you start to think about Christmas plans. Make your plans perfectly imperfect and allow for unexpected guests, unexpected expenses and other surprises. Schedule a full safety check on your car so that you know exactly what may go wrong before it occurs, review your insurances, have a checkup with your doctor or see a relationship coach even if you think there are no issues. It’s nice to know about little things before they become larger.

December again and we are almost done. If you’ve followed the instructions for New Year RRR-Revolutions, then you have not just picked up one new habit, you have revolutionised and evolved many areas of your life. Allow yourself the grace of dropping the habits that didn’t resonate with you or the ones that didn’t seem to stick: it’s OK, Henry Ford couldn’t paint cathedrals and Michelangelo couldn’t tune a carbeurettor; forgive yourself and vow to do what you love and love what you do. Keep the habits that you liked, let go the ones you didn’t and next year, plan to continue to work on many little areas instead of one big one: you may find that by taking a few committed steps, that eventually, the marathon takes care of itself.

Jeremy’s discipline of self-improvement has included 1500+ daily sunrise meditations, weekly business or self-improvement books and recording a weekly inspirational video on youtube. Step by step transforms the world.m

Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

The Worry-Free Mind

reading The Worry-Free Mind, by Carol Kershaw & Bill Wade

It’s completely natural to worry from time to time. But it’s a problem when your life is controlled by fears and anxieties.

Fortunately, there are ways we can calm our mind and get some relief. The brain is very capable of falling into patterns that constantly promote stressful thoughts. But we can add new patterns to our daily routine, and, before long, change the negative into a positive.

Actionable advice:

1) Meditation

Meditation is a way of getting rid of the clutter that causes a brain to function poorly. It also helps bring the brain down from the frantic beta state and into the calm and cool alpha state, which is where you can chill out and live worry-free.

2) Say Cheeeeeese!

Next time you feel a bit worried about a job interview or taking an important phone call, try smiling! By holding a smile for 60 seconds, you’ll find that your worry will begin to vanish. That’s because of the interconnectedness between your physiology and your internal, emotional state.

3) Change your focus

Look around without moving your eyes. One of the best ways to refocus your attention is to use your peripheral vision. This is the area of your vision that exists off to the sides of whatever you’re directly focusing on. This takes some practice, so start by keeping your eyes locked straight ahead, but rather than noticing what’s directly in front of you, take notice of what’s to the left or right edges of your vision.

You’ll find that, when trying to use your peripheral vision, it’s rather difficult to entertain a negative thought. Why? Because you’ve shifted your attention. So the next time you’re stuck, engage your peripheral vision and get yourself unstuck.

4) Take a relaxing stroll and clear your head

Another effective technique is to simply go for a walk. When upset or caught in a cycle of stress, the human mind’s capacity for rational thinking becomes faulty. Studies show that, when caught up in such a cycle, a person’s blood will flow to the right side of the brain, away from the left hemisphere where rational thinking takes place.

But going for a walk is what’s known as a bilateral activity; it engages both hemispheres of the brain and can kick your rational thinking back into gear. This increases the chance that you’ll abandon the irrational doom-and-gloom thinking.

The next time you’re worried about a meeting or presentation, get yourself outside and look around. Notice the scenery, architecture and nature that surrounds you. This will reduce your anxieties and can even put you into an alpha frequency

Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

If you could invest into China 20 years ago, would you do it?

Sometimes, there are huge opportunities in life and you fail to take them. These opportunities may make you regret your choices for many years to come. Sometimes you miss out… and sometimes, just sometimes, you get the chance to do it all over again.

chinese africa

If you could invest into China 20 years ago, would you do it? 

Twenty years ago, China was an economic “no-fly-zone”. Almost nobody was investing there, and those who did, were thought of as crazy. Even legendary investor Warren Buffett would not touch China; the Oracle of Omaha stayed happily investing in USA stocks for 45 years and only invested in Australia for the first time back in 2000.

Fast forward to 2007 and watch what happened when the GFC hit. The Titanic US economy dropped more than 50%, Europe and the UK dropped over 50%, and China went up by 52%… 

Make a note of this — If you had invested $100k in savings or retirement funds prior to the GFC, your US investment would be less than $50k, but your Chinese stocks would be worth over $150k… quite a significant difference, don’t you think?

Three times your money back, plus a lesson for life

Yes, the so-called “emerging economies” pose some risk as well. They are not immune from corruption or scandal. But all investment carries risk, and nothing is as “safe as houses”.. The GFC proved that not even the housing market is safe from negative returns, so you could benefit from having a little diversification into areas which do not speak your language.

usa china africa

In 1999, we suggested investors consider an exit from over-priced USA and consider an investment into China and Australia. Within two years, the USA had a monumental melt-down (the “Tech Wreck”, followed by the 9/11 plane crash), and Aussie and Chinese markets climbed.

Back in 2005-2006 we recommended a final exit-call from the USA and investing into China and the BRIC economies. The following two years saw investment drops in the USA that are still being felt ten years later. Meanwhile, the “emerging economies” are ticking along nicely.

One plus One equals Five

As you can see above, the difference between one investment going south by 50% and one going north by 50%, is not just 50 + 50= 100% —  rather than a mere doubling, the 50-up, 50-down equation creates a differential of around 300%.

Many people could have made radically greater returns, if they only knew… (and took action)

If you had heeded the warnings in “Invest News” in 1999, or if you had read “Who’s Taking Your Money? (and how to get some of it back!)” in 2006, your returns could have been dramatically better than the average investor.

“They did not listen, they did not know how… perhaps they’ll listen now…” 

Even if you are not convinced by the weight of our last few predictions, you may wish to hear from some other experts. (It’s interesting to note that whilst the “poor” people are watching Reality TV shows or listening to the latest terror threats or Hollywood gossip, the truly wealthy are looking at *alternate news*, including Forbes Magazine…)

OK, so you may have a dozen excuses why you cannot possibly invest into Africa:

  • I can’t speak the language / don’t understand the culture
  • I can’t trust the truth of the economic figures / the politicians are corrupt
  • what if a war breaks out / what if there is a terrorist attack
  • I don’t have enough money / my super fund won’t let me do this
  • and so on…

We do not wish to call *BS on your *BS excuses for why you cannot invest into Africa or other emerging economies. We just want to point out that these same *BS excuses for why (you say) you cannot invest into Africa are probably the very same *BS excuses you would have had for why (you would have said) you could not invest into China, five, ten, or twenty years ago.

Your *BS excuses are just your *Belief System*

escape poverty

Your *BS beliefs are not necessarily true. Unchain your mind and embrace a new possibility.

  1. Culture/language barrier: this never stopped anyone who invested into China, Brazil, Russia or other emerging economies. You don’t need to speak African or Chinese, you just need to know the three-letter ticker codes for the index.
  2. Economic disbelief: figures coming from China or Africa may seem occasionally suspect (it’s also possible that your own politicians or government lies to you about “seasonally adjusted” unemployment figures or “official” interest rates), but you cannot argue with your own returns. Chinese GDP figures of 8% YOY may be closer to 5%, but this still is 300% higher economic growth than the 1.5-2% figures from the USA, and your investment growth will be the final judge.
  3. Terrorist attacks or wars: violence or conflict can affect anyone, in any country, at anytime. They seem to be more common these days (due to media bias, the rate of information exchange, internet news sources etc), however, in reality, there is more peace in Africa now than there was 20 years ago. 
  4. Not enough money/ can’t do it/ don’t know how: This is a *BS excuse and deep down, you know it. You can invest into the stockmarket index of practically any country you choose, with as little as $500 (plus around $25 for brokerage). This can be in your own name or in the name of your kids, your partner or your superannuation /retirement fund. You do NOT need to have a Self-Managed Super Fund to invest into stocks, shares, indexes (indices?) or ishares. You can do it, even if your employer says you can’t, because: 1) they can’t stop you, and 2) if you know how to do something, it doesn’t matter about the people who say it cannot be done.

china africa usa.jpg

Just Do It 

In case you have not yet noticed, immigrants, international students and others from foreign lands tend to work hard, study hard and over-achieve. This is a cultural learning because competition is often hard where they are from.

Not every African or Asian had to walk 10 miles for water, or live through famine, poverty or civil war, but many of them did. Many third-world parents faced hardships which we could only imagine, and they instil into their children a tough ethic. To get through hard times, you have to work hard and become hard. This concept permeates the culture of life, ambition and work, whether the child stays in their home country, or whether they seek opportunity in the first world.

You may not feel like working a 10-hour day job, and driving Ubers 6-10 hours each night whilst simultaneously studying for a new degree, and that is perfectly OK. If you are lazier than the average Asian or African, that’s OK. The key is this: you do not have to work 19-hour days to become wealthy, you can merely invest into those who already have the hard work ethic.

And yes, you can do it with your super fund or with $500 in spare cash. China was an amazing investment opportunity which most people missed. Africa could be the next wave, which, if you are quick, you can catch and surf all the way home.

china vs usa  chinese africa

The ishare code for investing into the Chinese index — from America is FXI, from the UK is FXC and from Australia the Chinese index trades on the Aussie stock exchange as IZZ.

For Brazil, BRIC, China, Hong Kong, Peru, Africa and other codes, plus a list of their performance, google “ishares” or contact us at

ETF database
**All investing carries risk, even investing into cash in the bank can be risky. No investment is guaranteed and past performance is not an indicator of future gains. We provide economic education and not investment advice. All care and no responsibility. If you disagree with this, then perhaps you should not put your money into anything other than your own back pocket.



Posted in business, investment, Lifehack, money | Leave a comment

Ancient Wisdom for Modern Business Success 

In ancient times and in the modern era, the Jewish people have always been famous. One event that we may know well from school history is because of the Holocaust in World War Two. Another well-known or well-reported ‘fact’ is the great myth that Jews are usually very rich and great in business. Is this myth true?

It may well be true that the Jewish people are often financially more savvy and more business educated than many other people. What do they know that others do not? But first, look at the overall representation of this small group.

  • The Jewish population only accounts for 0.2% of the world population.

  • However, more than 10% the richest people in the world are Jewish, according to FORBES 400.

  • more than 10% of CEO’s of the 500 biggest companies are Jewish, according to FORTUNE,

  • almost 30% of Nobel Prize winners are Jewish. 

What do Jewish parents teach their children, that other people do not? 

The source book for this article is  Jewish Wisdom for Business Success. It is written by Rabi Levi Brackman and Sam Jaffe. This is a summary based on the book.

Move Forward, Conquer Your Fear

You have to conquer your fear. Competition is not your true enemy. Your true enemy is your own fear. Playing safe will not always be a suitable option for you. Taking risks are also important in life. You always have to reflect upon your own personality. Are you driven by fears or by facts? Be careful. Do not be directed by your fears. Fear can also make you want to fight. You may want to fight because you are brave, but also because you are fearful of the facts which you are facing in life. Concentrate on moving forward. If you spend your energy on fighting, then you will not move forward and you waste your own valuable time. Fighting is a backward step. Do not blame other people. Do not blame other circumstances. You are the controller of your own life and your own business. At the time you blame others, then you lose control. God will not help you if you do not help yourself. Waive your fear and use risk management tools so that you can measure the risk. Step forward. You will be surprised that when you are taking the steps forward, your fear does not look fearful any longer.

Nobody Can Hinder Your Intention

Motivation is not an asset for success, but it a prerequisite. There is an inner will and outer will. Outer will is required so that you can achieve your inner will. The inner will is your true calling in life. The outer will is the required actions that you have to take in order to achieve your inner will. The outer will must  be in line with your inner will. However, in most cases, our outer will does not in conform to our inner will. Do not count on luck to get success. Find your own inner will, then plan long term, work hard and prepare to sacrifice. You will achieve your goals in the end. Reflect every day whether or not your life is already in line with your inner will. If you are in line with your inner will, then you will perform well in your outer will area. Follow your heart! It is a true recipe for lasting happiness. To find your true calling, you may take notes on the things that make you passionate. Take notes on the things that make you forget the time. If you can find your inner will, then your path to success will be clearer and shorter.

Humility Path

Do not be arrogant. Remember that when you achieve success, many people have helped you. Arrogance can destroy you overnight. Remember that God/Universe/Others gives you success for a purpose. Therefore, you must always remember to focus on the greater purpose in relation to your position or success, not just your own private interest. Open your mind to various ideas and suggestions by other people. Make a decision yourself after you filter all the ideas and suggestions of others. This may not mean that you are controlled by others. The decision is your own personal action. However, do not rely on your own thoughts; this can be disastrous. More brains and many advisers are better than none.

Patriarch Business Model

Marketing is very important in business, as well as credibility, honesty and your belief in the end product. However, there are also other factors that are required for long term success. Do what is right, not only for the popularity or money. Remember always to be a trustworthy person. As an employer and entrepreneur, you must always take care of your employees. You have to maintain their loyalty to you. It is very important. Let other people assist you while you expand your business. You cannot do everything by yourself. However, do not immediately let go of your business to other people. You must oversee your business and take care to look into its details. After you are married, you have to maintain your relationship with your husband or wife. You cannot just let your husband or wife work on the marriage. To have a wonderful and strong marriage, you have to maintain the relationship between the couple. It is also the same in the business. You have to maintain your business as well as maintain the relationship with your employees. Work hard and work smart.  Hard work alone is not enough. Have a system to protect yourself and your business from bad people who wants to manipulate you, sue you or take from you. Adapt your business to current circumstances. Change nowadays is very fast, so it is wise to also move your business fast. If your business does not change by following the current circumstances, then your business will be in trouble. Manage your business from top to bottom. You may surely delegate but you must always oversee the delegation implementation.

Making Sales

Note that you always negotiate with other people. Negotiation skills are very important for every business. If you improve your negotiation skills, then your business will also be improved. Always have a big picture first in your mind. Then, you can manage to change the small things. Most of the time, by changing the small things, you can change the big things that you want. Set your goal beforehand and be flexible to achieve it. You can find many creative ways to get a win/win solution by having your goal and also by giving the best to your counterpart. Trust is very important. It takes time to build trust. Be patient and always try to build trust, appreciation and friendship with the people in your life. Check and recheck all the time. Get the facts and check, and recheck it. Accordingly, you will have a big picture of the intention and goals of your counter party. Do not assume. Just get the facts before you.

Manage Failure

Admit your failure. Do not be ashamed or fearful because you have failed. The longer you disguise your failure, the worse it will make your business. Failure is normal thing in a business. If you do not fail, then you will not be improved. Do not blame other people when you fail. Blame yourself. However, do not get drowned in failure. Get up and learn from it. You have to regularly check your financial condition of your business. Check whether there is a leakage in your business. You must know it immediately, fix it, and learn from it so that it will not happen again in the future. Throw away the word “failure” from your dictionary. Every difficulty in business must be seen as an opening key to greater success.

Spiritual Entrepreneurship

Focus on your main role, to make and earn money. Remember to give tithing, 10% of your income to make the world a better place and become more spiritual. This approach is very good because it will attract more energy from the universe to bring more success as its payment. Try to build your credibility. This involves prayer/meditation/reflection, giving and helping other people. The more credible you are, the more the energy will be attracted to you and the greater will be your success. By giving donation to people, you will continuously repay to the community. This action will bring peace inside you. In everything you do, there is always an opportunity to give and to receive. Whenever you receive, you have to give also.

Positive Thinking

Thinking positive is the identity of a successful person. By being a positive person, you will attract positive situation into your life. Positive words and positive thinking will attract positive things into your life. However, be aware that positive thinking and positive words are not enough. You also have to act positively. Remember that working hard and working smart are the prerequisite for success. Use the power of intention to visualise the project or new business that you are planning and attracting towards you. At the same time, make sure you speak positively to attract and to get the things that you desire. Remember to be always careful of your spoken words. Positive wordings will attract positive situations to you and vice versa. Be grateful. Be always thankful to God/Universe/Spirit, be thankful to your employees, your family and your business partners. Do not be doubtful. If you are in doubt, you will hinder the positive power and situation into your life. Recognise your negative thought and feelings and then throw them away.

Way of the Wise

Be rational. Use your head. Do not use your emotional feeling too much. You must balance your rationale and your feeling. When you use your feeling too much, it may result in a difficult situation. Analyse everything based on facts, not emotion. However, you cannot also use your rationale only and disregard emotion. Everything in life also involves an emotional relationship. Accordingly, what important is to balance between reason and emotion. If you can balance both reason and emotion, you will be successful.

Famous Jewish people who have used their cultural teachings in business and life:

  • Sergey Brin, Founder of Google (co-Founder Larry Page has a Jewish grandmother)
  • Ben Bernanke, former Chairman of the US Federal Reserve
  • Rahm Emanuel, White House chief of staff
  • Dominique Strauss-Kahn, Head of the International Monetary Fund (IMF)
  • David Axelrod, Senior White House Adviser
  • Elena Kagan, US Supreme Court 
  • Ehud Barak, Defense Minister
  • Irwin Cotler, Canadian MP
  • Michael Bloomberg, founder of Bloomberg media, Mayor of New York
  • Ruth Bader Ginsburg, US Supreme Court Justice
  • Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook Founder (co-founder Dustin Moskovitz is also Jewish)
  • Esthee Lauder, founder of Estée Lauder brand of companies
  • Larry Ellison, Oracle founder (reportedly 6th richest man in the world)
  • Steven Spielberg, multi-award-winning Filmmaker
  • Jeff Zucker, CEO of NBC Universal
  • Joseph Lieberman, US Senator
  • Shari Arison, owner of Bank of Hapoalim (reported as richest woman in the Middle East)
  • Gill Marcus, Bank Governor, South Africa (first female bank governor)
  • Bob Dylan, Musician
  • Albert Einstein, Scientist
  • Roman Abramovitch, owner of Chelsea Football Club
  • Sacha Baron Cohen, Comedian, creator of “Borat” & “Bruno”
  • Lucian Freud, Artist (grandson of Sigmund Freud, first living artist to sell painting for over $35 M)
  • In Hollywood: Woody Allen, Mel Brooks, Ben Stiller, Harrison Ford, Adam Sandler, William Shatner, Natalie Portman, Jack Black, Sarah Silverman, Scarlett Johansson, Goldie Hawn, Dustin Hoffman, Mila Kunis, Paula Abdul, Adrien Brody, Pink (P!nk), Sarah Jessca Parker, Shia Lebeouf, Seth Green, Sarah Michelle Geller, Amanda Bynes, Jake Gyllenhaal, Lisa Kudrow, Seth Rogen, Winona Ryder, Matthew Broderick, Jeff Goldblum, David Schwimmer, Howard Stern, Daniel Radcliffe, Ashley Tisdale, Adam Levine, Gwyneth Paltrow, and many many more… 

You don’t have to be Jewish to learn lessons in business and in life, just as you don’t need to be a Middle-Eastern merchant to learn from “The Richest man in Babylon”.

What could you possibly learn, if you ignored the source and simply embraced the wisdom?

Source: Jewish Wisdom for Business Success – Eddy Leks
Posted in business, Lifehack, money, Uncategorized, wealth | Tagged , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Forget dumbbells and work on your SOH: funny guys get more girls

The best predictor of whether you will get sex, is more likely to be your ability to turn a phrase into a joke, than your ability to curl a dumbbell into a bicep.

Jeremy: "Would you like to come meditate at my house?"  Don: "Nah-mah-stay right here..."

Jeremy: “Would you like to come meditate at my house?”
Don: “Nah-mah-stay right here…”

Jeremy: “Would you like to come meditate at my house?”
Don: “Nah-mah-stay right here…”

Image: Jeremy Britton & Don Tolman, photo by Harri K Connex

A good sense of humour is sexually attractive, perhaps because it reveals intelligence, creativity, and other ‘good genes’ or ‘good parent’ traits.

If so, intelligence should predict humour production ability, which in turn should predict mating success.

In this study, 400 university students (200 men and 200 women) completed measures of abstract reasoning (Raven’s Advanced Progressive Matrices), verbal intelligence (the vocabulary subtest of the Multidimensional Aptitude Battery), humour production ability (rated funniness of captions written for three cartoons), and mating success (from the Sexual Behaviors and Beliefs Questionnaire).

Structural equation models showed that general and verbal intelligence both predict humour production ability, which in turn predicts mating success, such as lifetime number of sexual partners. Also, males showed higher average humour production ability. These results suggest that the human sense of humour evolved at least partly through sexual selection as an intelligence-indicator.

Research highlights

► Test if a humour is an intelligence indicator that translates into mating success.

► On average, males were funnier than women.

► Humour mediates the effect of intelligence on mating success for both sexes.

Source: “Humor ability reveals intelligence, predicts mating success, and is higher in males” from Intelligence

#peoplebesayin' "Make yourself at home", but then totally lose their shit when I sit on the couch naked and eat all their donuts... #butyousaid

#peoplebesayin’ “Make yourself at home”, but then totally lose their shit when I sit on the couch naked and eat all their donuts… #butyousaid

#peoplebesayin’ “Make yourself at home”, but then totally lose their shit when I sit on the couch naked and eat all their donuts… #butyousaid

Takeaway Lesson #1 — don’t watch porn or workout videos to try to get more sex. Watch some comedy, have a laugh, and if you if you want to lay down with that special someone, first work on your private “standup” routine.

Image: Jeremy Britton, photo from

NB: Americans spell “humour” as “humor” and “behaviour” as “behavior”, hence the titular differences above. The traditional English spelling of humour, behaviour, colour and flavour is preferred, as there is no such language as “US-English” and the movie “Idiocracy” should be a warning, not a prophecy. 

Source: Can you predict how many women a man has slept with by how funny he is? – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
Posted in coaching, funny, happiness, humor, humour, Lifehack, relationships, sex, wealth | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Ladies: is his p3ni$ “evil”?

penis 003

Ladies: is his p3ni$ “evil”?

“Is his p3ni$ ‘evil’?” Right now, depending upon your point of view, or depending on your past experiences, you may be thinking, “Yes” or “No” or “No more evil than my p@$$y”…

Some ladies may be thinking: “What a stupid question”.

Obviously no man is born with an evil penis*, just as no girl is born with an evil vadge*. Like all babies, you were born innocent and cute, with all of the correct equipment you need to get through your life.

Your equipment is merely a tool which can be used for a multitude of purposes. A (wo)man can rape, or a (wo)man can make love to a partner in incredibly beautiful ways. Your hands that can hit an attacker, can also be used to caress a loved one. Your muscles can be used to oppress someone, or to rescue them from disaster.

In a similar fashion, you could view other non-bodily tools as neutral; able to become “good” or “evil” by the mere intention of the holder.

Electricity can cook your meal or electiricity can kill someone, depending upon how it is used. Water can quench your thirst or water can drown you, depending on how much you ingest. Sunlight can tan your skin or the sun can roast your skin, depending on your exposure. And what about money?

Money Is Not The Root Of All Evil
Money Is The Route To All Freedom

Traditionally, many poorer people were taught by the ancient Christian church that “money is evil” (a completely misquoted text, sometimes still misquoted today). This BS (Belief System) is demonstrably untrue, yet the long-held societal conditioning of it may still affect many people to this day.

Most modern people do not believe the number 13 is, in itself, or of itself, “unlucky”, yet we can still visit modern hotels without a 13th floor or motels that are missing a room 13… This totally unrealistic belief or superstition about the number 13 from the Middle Ages, still affects our daily lives in the 21st century. Thankfully it does not limit us from living a free life, but how about that old money belief?

Richer people or those who were not Christian, were often given the belief that money is a tool, and not evil or good, until it is used.

You can see how the Belief System (BS) propogated by the early church was good for the church (who accumulated vast fortunes at the expense of their flock), but the hypocrisy of a rich clergy glorifying poverty stands obvious for all but the most mindless sheep.

Some traditional or brainwashed Christians may still view the Asian or Jewish encouragement of hard work and accumulation of wealth as a promotion of selfishness – overlooking the Truth of an abundant and loving God/Universe.

In Truth, financial wealth is simply a means to an end. Whilst the early church used to comfort the sick or suffering by saying “their reward will be great in Heaven”, almost nobody falls for that BS anymore (and most religious people are happy to visit doctors).

You can view having abundant wealth in the same way as having abundant health: if I am well, I can help many people; if I am sick, I can’t help anyone, and cannot even help myself.

In Truth, financial wealth/physical health is not simply a means of personal enrichment. Money or vitality is a tool that can be used to fulfill your duty to help others.

The selfish pursuit of money for its own end, is a hollow goal, but the pursuit of the goodness that money can bring is one of your greatest responsibilities and can also be one of your greatest joys.

The more money you have, the more ability you have to positively change the lives of those who are in need. If you are poor and kind, and your friend’s house is burned in a fire, you will remain a good person but have limited ability to help them with what they need. If the same house burns and you are rich, you can give your friend a place to stay or a new home because you have more than enough for yourself and can assist anyone around you who needs it.

Money, like your other equipment, is a tool. Money has no feeling, no voice, and no soul – its choice between good or evil is decided by those who use it.

Though it is not wrong to be poor, the celebration of poverty is mired in selfishness.

If you are poor, you can still save a life, but if you are rich, you can build a hospital and save ten thousand lives.

The poor can do little to help the poor, but the rich can help as many as they are able.

If you are rich, you have the opportunity to do much good, but if you are poor, you are unable to help anyone but yourself.

But what if I don’t have any money right now, how can I be generous and noble? 

Even if you have little, you can still do much. Money is merely paper and numbers that are traded for your time and effort. Therefore if you do not have money, you can still use your time and efforts to help others – positive actions and use of your time or effort are of equivalent value to any charitable cash donations.

The greater your fortune, in health or wealth or time or money, the greater your responsibility to your fellow humans. Those with the greatest power can do the greatest good for the largest number of those who are currently less fortunate.

Takeaway Homework: 

  1. Step up and open your wallet to give money: the amount does not matter, but the consistent daily or weekly habit does. If opened to give, your finances are also open to receive, and “as you send out, it will come back to you”. 
  2. Step up and open your heart and hands to give: your consistent efforts will go out to serve others and in turn, others (or God/Universe) will ultimately serve you in the same (or better) way. 

penis 002

*(we are not prudes, just trying to avoid getting too many red flags on Google)

If you have any old limiting (BS) Belief Systems which may be holding you back, (whether from religion, parents, teachers or inherited), do whatever you can to clear them out from your subconscious mind. Consider meditation, hypnotherapy or the “Flick Your Rich Switch Technique” (FYRST®)

Once you have removed any past conditioning or BS, then you are better able to operate in the new abundant paradigm, create better health or wealth, adopt new empowering beliefs, or use affirmations or incantations. This “cleansing of the mind” is as important as cleaning the poison out from the cup before you add your coffee!

For a selection of free wealth creation guided meditation audio MP3’s, visit — no fee, no opt-in, no commitment, just great product. Please pay it forward by sharing on social media and sending your friends to the same place you went, so you can all take up the challenge 🙂

Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Neuroscience: 4 Ways of Tricking Your Brain Into Making You Stress-Free

Neuroscience Reveals 4 Easy Rituals That Will Make You Stress-Free

The modern world seems to be designed to increase stress and I’m starting to wonder if worrying will soon be an Olympic sport.

You may have your own ways of coping with stress. Problem is, research says they probably don’t work.

From The Willpower Instinct:

The APA’s national survey on stress found that the most commonly used strategies were also rated as highly ineffective by the same people who reported using them. For example, only 16 percent of people who eat to reduce stress report that it actually helps them. Another study found that women are most likely to eat chocolate when they are feeling anxious or depressed, but the only reliable change in mood they experience from their drug of choice is an increase in guilt.

So let’s go after this stress thing where it lives: your brain. There are some great methods to train your mind to reduce stress…

But they take work. And right now you’re too stressed out for any of that. (Or maybe you’re just lazy and impatient. Hey, I don’t judge.)

So we need some stuff that’s diabolically easy and backed by neuroscience research — but let’s keep the emphasis on diabolical. If your brain won’t play fair, neither will we. So what do we need here?

Old fashioned treachery. Of the neuroscience variety. Time to do an end run around your brain’s stress response and exploit physiology to trick it into calming down. Let’s play neurological hardball…


1) Clench Your Facial Muscles And Relax Them

Communication between your brain and your body is a two-way street. There’s a feedback loop. So if you can’t get your brain to make your body calm down, you can use your body to make your brain calm down.

Your grey matter gets stressed and your muscles tighten up. Then your tense muscles send a signal back to your brain, confirming you’re stressed. We gotta break the loop.

Clench your facial muscles and then relax them. Now your body is sending a signal to your brain saying, “We’re not stressed anymore. You shouldn’t be either.”

From The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time:

To remind your brain to relax your muscles, sometimes it’s helpful to clench them first. Take a deep breath in and then flex a tight muscle for a few seconds. After holding for a few seconds, exhale with a sigh and relax. The most important muscles to relax are your facial muscles, since those have the largest effect on emotion, but relaxing your hands, butt, and stomach are also important.

If your partner is around and you don’t feel like making a face that looks like you’re constipated, have them give you a massage. That works too.

(To learn the four rituals neuroscience says will make you happier, click here.)

So funny faces can beat stress. Or maybe you’re getting a massage instead. That’s even better. You’re less stressed and you’re bonding with your partner.

But what if facial scrunching doesn’t work? What other dirty physiological tricks do we have?


2) Take Slow, Deep Breaths

The vagus nerve is one of the key emotional highways in your body. It sends signals down to your heart and up to your brain playing a critical role in regulating the fight-or-flight system.

Directly stimulating the vagus nerve can fix all your issues… Only problem is that would require a scalpel and a lot of medical school loans. So we’ll stay focused on treachery.

How you breathe can hijack the way the vagus nerve works. In fact, it’s one of the fastest ways to change your emotional state.

From The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time:

Breathing affects the brain through signals carried by the vagus nerve. Not only does the vagus nerve send signals down to the heart, as mentioned earlier, but it also carries signals up into the brain stem. Vagus nerve signaling is important in activating circuits for resting and relaxation, known as the parasympathetic nervous system. The parasympathetic system is the opposite of the sympathetic nervous system, which controls the fight-or-flight instinct. Slow breathing increases activity in the vagus nerve and pushes the brain toward parasympathetic activity. So slow, deep breathing calms you down.

So how do you do it right?

From The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time:

Breathe in slowly through your nose while counting slowly to six (or even eight). Pause for a couple seconds at the top of your inhalation and then exhale slowly through your nose for the same count.

And this is no small effect. After the US military taught Navy SEAL recruits a few psychological tricks (including proper breathing) passing rates jumped from 25% to 33%.

An interesting side note: do the opposite and you’ll get the opposite effect. Need more energy? Breathe quickly.

From The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time:

By contrast, rapid breathing deactivates the parasympathetic nervous system and activates the sympathetic nervous system. When you are anxious, excited, or scared, you breathe quickly. But it’s also true that if you breathe quickly, you’re more likely to feel those feelings. Fast breathing can make you more nervous— but also more excited. Sometimes that’s a good thing. Maybe you need a bit more energy to make it to the gym (or to do anything at all). Try quick, shallow breaths for twenty to thirty seconds.

(For more from neuroscientist Alex Korb on how to make your brain happy, click here.)

What if this doesn’t work? You’re huffing and puffing and you’re still worried your house is going to get blown down. Head to the sink, my friend…


3) Splash Your Face With Cold Water

Cold water on your face will jolt your vagus nerve and slow your heart rate. Your brain feels your heart rate dropping and says, “We must not be stressed anymore.” (Ha! Stupid brain…)

From The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time:

Sudden cold water on your face slows down your heart rate by indirectly stimulating the vagus nerve. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or anxious, find a sink, fill your hands with cold water, and splash it on your face.

(To learn the methods bomb disposal experts use to stay calm under pressure, click here.)

Alright, maybe you’ve made funny faces, you’re breathing like Darth Vader and your face is soaking wet — but you’re still stressed. Do not worry. (Or I should say, “Do not worry even more.”) Neuroscience has another sneaky trick. And this one is fun…


4) Play Music And Do A Little Dance

Music affects how you feel, right? Fight the bad feelings with good feelings by listening to the music you love.

Sound overly simple? Nope. Your favorite song will passively help straighten out key limbic system regions like your hippocampus, your anterior cingulate and your nucleus accumbens. Making music has an even more powerful effect.

And, no, you don’t have to do a little dance. But you get bonus points if you do.

From The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time:

Whether playing an instrument or listening to the radio, music increases heart-rate variability, though making music has a stronger effect. Music engages most of the limbic system, including the hippocampus, anterior cingulate, and nucleus accumbens, which is why it can be motivating and enjoyable and can help regulate your emotions. It can also be soothing, lowering blood pressure and reducing stress. So sing along with the radio or just make a playlist of your favorite songs. Better yet, go dancing. Dancing combines music, exercise, and being social, so you get a triple boost to an upward spiral.

(To learn what ancient wisdom says will make you happy, click here.)

Alright, you’ve fooled your brain into a state of calm that would make Zen masters envious. Let’s round up what we learned and do something fun together that will relieve stress and make you smile instantly…


Sum Up

Here’s how neuroscience and treachery can make you stress-free:

  • Clench your facial muscles and relax them: (If you use Botox, just skip to the next tip.)
  • Take slow, deep breaths: If it gets Navy SEALs through Hell Week, it’ll get you through tax season.
  • Splash your face with cold water: Wakes you up, calms you down and cleans your mug. Now that’s efficiency.
  • Play some music and do a little dance: Add a “neuroscience” playlist to Spotify.

So how can you kill stress and be happier with almost no effort whatsoever?

Research shows that owning a dog reduces stress. In fact, the effect is so powerful that just watching a video of a cute animal reduces heart rate and blood pressure in under a minute.

From 59 Seconds: Change Your Life in Under a Minute:

In an innovative study, Deborah Wells examined whether merely looking at a video of an animal can have the same type of calming and restorative effects as those created by being in its company… Compared to the two control conditions, all three animal videos made the participants feel much more relaxed. To help reduce your heart rate and blood pressure in less than a minute, go online and watch a video of a cute animal.

You want easy stress relief? All you have to do is click…

Author: Eric Barker, “Barking Up the Wrong Tree

Posted in business, happiness, health, Lifehack, meditation, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment